Real Friends

How do you know if your friends right now are real friends? Or do they just want be around you because there's no other friends that want to be around them?

I know that there are people out there that will be your friend for life.  Whether you have issues, been through difficulties or just having a great life, they are always by your side near or far. On the other hand, there are people that you meet and will be in your life for a short period of time. That is not bad either, it depends on the situation.  As for people you've known for many years and they have shunt you from their lives for their own personal reason or just decided that you are not worth being friends with. They weren't really a friend to begin with, it was for their personal agenda to have you around. It's how you handle the situation makes a whole lot of difference to you and that person.

Here's another type of friendship:

What if you have known this person for many years and you both decided to become closer friends and started dating? I've known people to do such thing. The only concern is that what happens when your dating situation goes sour? Do you still be friends or do you part from each other for life's for ever? Now that's the question that concerns everyone.  I have been through such thing and it's not pretty.  I guess it's how you handle things mentally because remember you are throwing away many years of friendship you both had. It's not an easy thing to do but if it's done right, you both can go on with life's knowing you can still count on the next person to still be there as a friend. (hasn't happen for me unfortunately) Can you handle this type of situation? Have you gone through something like this? What is your perspective on this type of situation?

I've been reading lots of comments on Facebook that pertains to situation like this.  A lot of times people are questioning themselves on what they did wrong but really it's not them that is causing the problem? Majority of the time it's the other person who has had something done to them and is now questioning everything in their life. All I can say is be strong and don't let others make you feel bad about yourself. If you are doing things right and good things will come your way.  True friends will always be there even at at times when you have a dispute with each other and resolve it in due time. True friends are true friends.  No one can break you apart and no situation can prevent you from keeping your friendship. Life is tough out there and you will always need friends/family to be around you whether good or bad situations. Life is to short to "hate" someone.  Hate is a strong word and it's not really a good word to use. You could always use "dislike" because one day that certain friend might come around again and life will go on.